Relationship
“You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same
time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do
not just live in a world but a world lives in you.”
~Frederick Buechner
Relationships. That’s what life is about, relationships. With parents, children, siblings, neighbors, spouses or life partners, in-laws, bosses, co-workers, contractors, even the grocery store clerk, your postman and your pets, and most importantly with yourself and the Divine.
How nice would it be to better understand yourself and others? Would you be happier if you could communicate effectively with others and gain a better understanding of them and yourself? Imagine your life with less conflict, without hostility aimed at yourself or anyone else. Just for a moment, close your eyes and envision your life without chaos. Can you do that? Can you allow yourself that freedom? The freedom to be happy. To know peace. To have harmonious relationships.
One of our basic human desires is to be free. You cannot truly be free until you know happiness. Unfortunately, most of us have been taught to be unhappy. We’ve been told that life is hard. It’s a struggle. You have to fight for what you want. Most of the time, the real struggle is the one we are having with ourselves. The tendency is to project the struggle onto another person and let them carry the blame. “Things would be so much better if they just ___________ (fill in the blank.)” But the truth is that our struggles do not come from the events in our lives, but rather the way in which we react to them. It takes two to have a relationship, but it only takes one to heal it.
You see, we are rarely upset for the reason we think we are. Let’s say someone says something unkind to you. Your immediate reaction is to say that they hurt your feelings. And maybe you lash out and try to hurt them. You may think that you are reacting to the slight in that moment, but actually, the inner you, the you that was wounded as a child in a similar way, is who is really to blame for you feeling hurt. If there were no inner wound, there would be no hurtful response to the slight. Feeling stung by a negative comment is a choice. Just as disregarding a negative comment is a choice, a choice that can become automatic once the wound is uncovered and healed. Those unhealed wounds block us from happiness.
One of the beautiful things about hypnotherapy is that you can easily unlock pathways to harmonious relationships by eliminating negative feelings, both about yourself and others. You can gain clarity about the inter-personal struggles that cause so much stress and strife in daily life. And gain insight into yourself, your motivations and desires. It is by far the quickest way to get to the heart of problems and heal the hurts and misunderstandings that we carry with us every day and that unknowingly cause us to perpetuate further pain in our relationships.
